How to Get Around Gossip

G is for Gossip

It may be the truth. It may be a vicious lie. Either way, gossip intends to hurt someone. And sooner or later, word will get around to you.

You may be the target of gossip. Or the rumors may be spreading about someone you’ve never met. What will you say?

Tips for stopping gossip:

There are a few things you can say to stop gossipers:

  • Say “I try say only nice things about people who aren’t there.”
  • “I wouldn’t want them talking about me behind my back like this.”
  • “Why don’t you talk to them about this?”
  • “How do you plan to help? “

Sometimes you need to blow off steam. That’s ok. Let your friend know you are upset. Tell them you just need to rant for a moment. You can also do this in a journal, or pray.

Afterwards, ask for advice on how to make things better. Do not go around to multiple people talking about how angry you are. If you are frustrated with someone, go to that person after you have cooled down.

It’s probably gossip if:

  • You’re saying something hurtful about someone who’s not there.
  • You’re talking about a problem you don’t intend to help with.
  • You’re laughing at someone behind their back.
  • You wouldn’t want someone else talking about you the same way.

Sometimes, there are exceptions.

What’s not gossip:

  • Telling someone safe about a bully.
  • Getting advice for how to deal with a tough situation.
  • Getting help for a friend who is in trouble.

Be a good friend:

  • Don’t spread rumors.
  • Don’t say mean things about people who aren’t there.
  • Don’t hang out with people who do.


“Do not run around as a slanderer among your people, and do not act against the life of your neighbor; I am the Lord.”
Leviticus 19:16

“A slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not spend time with a gossip.”
Proverbs 20:19

“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.”
Proverbs 11:13 (NIV)

“A perverse man spreads strife, and a slanderer separates intimate friends.”
Proverbs 16:28

“The north wind brings forth rain, and a backbiting tongue, angry looks.”
Proverbs 25:23

“The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.”
Proverbs 18:8 (NIV)

“For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, contention quiets down. Like charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a contentious man to kindle strife. The words of a whisperer are like dainty morsels, and they go down into the innermost parts of the body.”
Proverbs 26:20-22

“Your tongue devises destruction, like a sharp razor, O worker of deceit.”
Psalm 52:2

“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.”
Psalm 34:13


“It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenseless one.”
– Lawrence G. Lovasik

“Fire and swords are slow engines of destruction, compared to the tongue of a gossip.”
-Richard Steele

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5 thoughts on “How to Get Around Gossip

  1. Jessica this is great! I love that you focus on helping kids to deal with the issues that face! I try to write about kids health as much as I can, too important! Great blog! Thank you for sharing! Elena

  2. Reblogged this on jamesandcindirunyon and commented:
    For kids or adults – this is a well-written, easy-to-skim, Biblical resource for staying away from poisonous words. A must read for homeschool moms, Sunday School teachers, and well Christians who choose to honor the Lord with their lips!

  3. These are powerful words in today’s world of backbiters and blame game players! Thank for putting them down so succinctly. Love

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