B is for Bullies.
We’ve all met them. They can be your classmates, cousins, teammates, or the mean kid next door.
They come in many shapes and sizes. But they generally make your life tougher than it should be.
Types of bullies:
- Verbal: name calling, teasing, taunting.
- Relationship bullies: Spreading rumors or lies, refusing to talk to people, excluding people from groups. Making them do things they don’t want to do
- Physical: Hitting, kicking, punching. Stealing, hiding, ruining people’s things.
Tips to overcome minor name-calling bullies:
- Ignore them.
- Show no fear or anger.
- Don’t call them names.
- Walk away (to safety).
- If they ask you to do something you don’t want to, say “No, thanks”.
- Ask them why they are doing this.
Most bullies want a big reaction. Don’t give them one.
Tips to keep from acting out:
- Think about something else (count, recite something in your head).
- Plan ahead.
- Focus on breathing.
- Get away as soon as you can. But don’t run.
- Note: This can backfire. Some bullies enjoy hurting people, and will continue doing it if you let them. Get away from these types of bullies as possible. Talk to an adult.
Tips to overcome tougher bullies:
- Travel with friends. Alone, you make an easy target.
- Talk to adults. Parents, teachers, lunchroom helpers, etc.
- Avoid them, but don’t make it obvious.
Tips for avoiding ambush:
- Keep your head up.
- Always be aware of your surroundings.
- Keep your eyes on where you are going.
- Watch for movement/people out of the corners of your eyes.
Sometimes you can’t stop bullies from being mean, and you can’t avoid them. But you can focus on making yourself better.
Tips for making yourself bully-proof:
- Enroll in a self-defense class.
- Stay fit (exercise and eat right).
- Take a shower every day.
- Walk tall, with confidence (even if you don’t feel it).
Some day you may face the choice of bullying or being bullied. Remember who you are. Become a protector.
Tips if you see others being bullied:
- Stick up for the kid being bullied.
- Ask the bully why they’re acting like this.
- Tell the bully to stop.
It’s hard to love bullies. But, if you’re a Christian, God calls us to love everyone. You don’t have to love them the same way you love your friends and family. And loving people doesn’t mean we have to let them hurt us.
Loving the Un-loveable:
- Respond in love. Don’t name-call or respond in anger.
- Stand up for the weak and defenseless.
- Forgive. Don’t hold on to bitterness. That only hurts you.
- Pray for the bullies in your life.
- Ask God to give you His perspective on bullies.
- Underneath the hurtful actions is a human, just like us.
“You have heard that it was said ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matt. 5:43-44
“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7
“And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone.” I Thessalonians 5:14
“Leave her alone.” John 12:7
How did you survive?
Have you ever faced bullies? How did you deal with them?
What would you tell someone who facing bullies?
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